I thought I would give an update since my last writing was not about transitioning. I hope no one takes it wrong either what I said. I am actually really looking forward to see if things get better. I find it odd and kind of scary that there are not exclusive laws to protect us now. Of course laws would only get passed to protect us if the Democrats win. The problem is that I don’t really agree with the Democrats or the Republicans on several key issues so either way I am not too excited.
I went out on Thursday night to my favorite little club with the wife. She usually doesn’t go but she came with me this time. I like to wear normal clothing when I go out to clubs and by that I mean nothing too clubish. I am not there to get picked up so its a chance to look like an average girl. Also its great to see all my friends. I guess my goal would be to get good enough that people have to ask even when I am with my “sisters.” Don’t get me wrong I do wear some club clothing sometimes you just have to. Its just that I really want to get that normal everyday look down. I went wearing my white Cami, and pink top with some jeans. So it was nothing major fancy but looks good on me. I know I looked good because I got several compliments that night. I had one lesbian girl come across the club single me out and tell me I was the prettiest girl there before she left. I don’t believe her but it was nice to hear. To single me out like that meant she knew what I was, but still its a good compliment. I also meet Kate Bornstein there and she stopped looked at me and said, “wow your beautiful.” It was a very nice compliment and we chatted very breifly. I guess she has wrote several books, plays, and is an activist, but was more into the show than talking. I wish I would have talked with her before the show. Its always good to meet people that have completed there transition and are now living life. Its even better to meet someone who is successful at it and a writer. I have always loved writing myself if you couldn’t tell.
The night ended on a rather grim note though. One of my friends is very beautiful and really I don’t think anyone knows she is transgendered was there. I had been defending her forever to my wife and now I am lost as to what to do. She was in the rest room when my wife walked in and I guess she thought my wife was beautiful. Not only did she compliment her which is fine she tried to kiss her open mouth and touched her in some very inappropriate spots. My wife is very sneaky about some things and so you can’t really be sure if it happened or if she just wants me not to talk to her anymore. It really bothered me so I told my wife I called the club and told them what happened. Also I told her they fired her. Now if my wife was lying about it she would have said something, but she said nothing about it not being true. I know its wrong to play this way, but a girl has to be cleaver about finding the truth. If I had asked again I know she would have been offended… the problem is that it really happened. I know for sure now and confronted my friend, but she said it never happened. We were supposed to go out as a group to a haunted house and do some things as a group that are definitely on hold now. I am just so lost and almost disgusted at the whole scene now. I told my wife we are going to start going to different places. I love getting out and being with other transgendered friends, but really that’s too much. Its no wonder girls like us have a bad reputation.
I had a good day out though on Saturday. I went with my wife shopping at Kohls. We found several cute things more than we could buy. They have such a good sale right now so we choose some choice clothing. I went to the check out stand and didn’t have my Kohls card on me. The girl at the counter must have been all of seventeen and was very polite. I told her I didn’t my card with me and she said it was no big deal. She told me to just enter the SSN thats on that account. I did and then she asked for the id. So I passed her my id and then she asked me how I was related. She asked me if I was his daughter. I was laughing to myself so hard because it was my id and said a yeah. Then she asked for my id. I had to lean in and tell her that was my id. Then she said what? I leaned in and said I know its odd, but that’s me. To which she responded Oh, no not at all. I have to say that really made my day. Actually it made my week because here was my id and me in person yet she didn’t even recognize that it was me. I guess I pass though in public.